The Role of Parents, Part 3 – Proverbs on Parenting

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Pastor Scott L. Harris

Grace Bible Church, NY

April 17, 2011

The Role of Parents,
Part 3

Proverbs on Parenting




This morning I want to continue on the subject of parenting. The importance
of this issue is obvious to those who are busy rearing their children, but is
also important for everyone else too. Why? Primarily because if we can
understand what the Lord wants us to teach children, we will also understand
what the Lord wants in our own lives. Secondarily, everyone has some effect upon
children. That may be through either direct involvement or the indirect
involvement of your example. How you live does have an effect upon other people,
and children are the ones who are most easily influenced by that.

Over the past two sermons I have sought to lay out some foundational
principles concerning parenting. Two weeks ago I stressed parental
responsibility. We live in a society that tries to shift responsibility for the
care and the outcome of raising children. However, God’s commands concerning
bringing up children are given to the parents, not the government, school
district, counselors, doctors or church workers. Other people can help, but the
responsibility belongs to the parents to direct their care and to make sure the
Lord’s commands concerning them are carried out. While Ezekiel 18:20 makes it
clear that parents cannot be responsible for the sins of their children, nor the
children for the sins of the parents, it also makes it clear that each is
responsible for their own sins. The child will be affected by the sins of the
parents, but each bears the responsibility of their own sins. The solution for
the guilt that comes with sin and failure is repentance, confession and
forgiveness, not shifting the blame.

Godly people will diligently strive to carry out the Lord’s commandments
while being humble to seek godly counsel and freely admitting failures and
seeking forgiveness and reconciliation. They are also careful of their example
knowing that it will influence others and especially children. Since God
requires children to obey their parents, godly parents will teach their children
to obey the first time, right away and with a good attitude lest they teach
their children to sin in behavior or attitude. (See:
Role of Parents, Part 1

Last week we examined some additional general principles of parenting arising
out of Colossians 3:21 and Ephesians 6:4. There are both prohibitions and
prescriptions for parents. Parents are to avoid provoking their children to
anger or exasperating them causing them to lose heart. There are quite a few
things parents need to be careful about or they will affect their children in
those ways. These would include such practices as physical or verbal abuse,
being inconsistent, selfishness, favoritism, excessive expectations,
discouragement, and using affection to manipulate.

On the positive side, parents are to be careful to bring up their children in
the discipline and instruction of the Lord. As described in Deuteronomy 6:4-9,
parents are to love the Lord God with all their heart, soul and might and then
diligently teach their children the ways of the Lord by talking about Him and
His commands in all the various situations of life – when you sit in your house,
walk by the way, lie down and rise up. Parents are to set into the minds of
their children how to walk with God and other people. Wise parents will use the
Scriptures extensively to accomplish this because according to 2 Timothy 2:17
the Scriptures are “profitable for doctrine, reproof, correction and
instruction in righteousness that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for
every good work.”
Use the word of God to teach your children the path of
life, to reprove them when they get off that path, to correct them back to the
path and instruct them on how to stay on the path. (See:

The Role of Parents, Part 2

That is what I want to concentrate on this morning – using the word of God to
help your children walk the path of life. We will be looking at quite a few
different Bible passages, so you may want to keep a pen handy to write down the
references so that you can use them later with your children.


The Goal


Before I get to those specific Bible passages, let me quickly remind you of
the goal in parenting. As much as I would like to say that it is to raise
Christian sons and daughters, the reality is that you cannot save your children.
That must be the work of the Holy Spirit convicting them of sin, righteousness
and judgment so that they may personally repent and believe on the Lord Jesus
Christ. However, you can and are to lay the foundation for this work of the Holy
Spirit, and you will do so if you follow God’s commands concerning them.

As we have already seen from Deuteronomy 6, it is your responsibility to love
the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and might and to diligently teach
your children the commandments of the Lord by talking about them in all the
various situations of life. When you sit in your house and when you walk by the
way encompass the daily activities of life. What are you doing when you sit
in your house
– having a meal, reading, playing a game, being entertained?
When you walk by the way encompasses all the activities when you are away
from home since you have to travel to them. When you lie down refers to
this being the last thing you are doing before you fall asleep. When you rise
refers to this being done from when you first get up in the morning. In
all your activities and in all your waking hours you are to be looking for,
creating and taking advantage of opportunities to teach your children about God
and what He desires and requires in all the subjects that come up in the course
of life.

So then, while the first and foremost desire of Christian parents is that
their children will also become genuine Christians, your actual primary goal can
only be to teach them all about God, what He is like, what He has done and what
He commands while modeling this supreme love for God in your own life. That goal
can only be accomplished by being diligent to teach them throughout the course
of daily life. Then pray fervently that the Lord will draw your children to
Himself and save them.

The next great goal of parenting should be true for all parents, Christian
and non-Christian alike, and it is complimentary to the primary goal of
Christian parents. That is that your children will grow up to be wise adults.
This is the purpose of the book of Proverbs and why we will spend much of our
time there for the rest of this morning.

Proverbs 1:2-6 states its purpose, “To know wisdom and instruction, To
discern the sayings of understanding, 3 To receive instruction in wise behavior,
Righteousness, justice and equity; 4 To give prudence to the naive, To the youth
knowledge and discretion, 5 A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a
man of understanding will acquire wise counsel, 6 To understand a proverb and a
figure, The words of the wise and their riddles.


Wisdom, Its Origins & Attainment


The first questions that arise are what is wisdom, its origin and how can it
be attained? The answer to those two later questions result in very different
understandings of what is wise.

The Hebrew word for wisdom (chokmah) has a root meaning of skill and refers
to the ability to skillfully apply knowledge. The Greek word for wisdom (sofiva
/ sophia) is similar in meaning. A wise craftsman such as a carpenter
knows all about his craft and can skillful apply that knowledge to create and
build something useful of high quality. A man who is wise about life skillfully
applies his knowledge of it to make choices that will result in fulfilling the
purpose and meaning of life. It is the differences in what is thought about the
purpose and meaning in life that separate godly wisdom from worldly wisdom. This
point is crucial to understand in parenting, for it takes you back to your goal
in parenting. Too many Christian parents have raised or are raising foolish
children because they are following the wisdom of the world to fulfill the wrong

Paul brings out the contrast between the worldly wise and the godly wise in 1
Corinthians 1. The Corinthians, being Greeks, were of course enamored with Greek
philosophy which by its very human nature is contrary to God’s revelation. Paul
had run into this much earlier on his second missionary journey when he was
asked to speak to the philosophers on Mars Hill in Athens. They listened until
he brought up the major emphasis of the gospel that God had raised Jesus from
the dead. At that point most of them began to sneer at Paul and only a few
followed Paul to find out more and came to believe. For the most part the
Corinthian people responded in a similar manner considering the word of the
cross to be foolishness, but to those being saved it is the wisdom and power of
God (1 Corinthians 1:18, 23-24). Paul quotes from Isaiah 29:14 in verse 19 that
God would destroy the wisdom of the wise and the cleverness of the clever. Paul
then begins to contrast worldly wisdom and godly wisdom starting in verse 20.

“Where is the wise man? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this
age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 21 For since in the
wisdom of God the world through its wisdom did not [come to] know God, God was
well-pleased through the foolishness of the message preached to save those who
believe. 22 For indeed Jews ask for signs, and Greeks search for wisdom; 23 but
we preach Christ crucified, to Jews a stumbling block, and to Gentiles
foolishness, 24 but to those who are the called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ
the power of God and the wisdom of God. 25 Because the foolishness of God is
wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men.

26 For consider your calling, brethren, that there were not many wise
according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble; 27 but God has chosen
the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak
things of the world to shame the things which are strong, 28 and the base things
of the world and the despised, God has chosen, the things that are not, that He
might nullify the things that are, 29 that no man should boast before God. 30
But by His doing you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, and
righteousness and sanctification, and redemption, 31 that, just as it is
written, “Let him who boasts, boast in the Lord.”

In raising your children, you will have to decide whether it will be
according to the wisdom of this world or according to the wisdom of God. If your
goal for your children is worldly success – material wealth, fame, power and
pleasure – then you will raise them accordingly and reject what the word of God
teaches for its definition of success is the opposite – contentment, being
humble, meekness and servant-hood. The goal of worldly wisdom is man’s glory and
fulfilling human desire. The goal of godly wisdom is God’s glory and fulfilling
His will.

With that in mind, what is the origin of wisdom? The fear of the Lord is
the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding

(Proverbs 9:10). Fools despise wisdom and instruction (Proverbs 1:7b).
The fear of the Lord is the instruction for wisdom, And before honor [comes]
(Proverbs 15:33).

It all begins with a proper and healthy fear of the Lord. Your children must
learn about God, His character, His works, His authority as well as His
commandments. They need to know that God created them and will hold them
accountable to keep His commandments, and it is this fear of the Lord that will
keep them away from evil (Proverbs 16:6) and in fact cause them to hate evil
(Proverbs 8:13). The fear of the Lord also prolongs life (Proverbs 10:27) and
gives a strong confidence (Proverbs 14:26).

How then can wisdom be attained? Proverbs 2 answers that question. “My
son, if you will receive my sayings, And treasure my commandments within you, 2
Make your ear attentive to wisdom, Incline your heart to understanding; 3 For if
you cry for discernment, Lift your voice for understanding; 4 If you seek her as
silver, And search for her as for hidden treasures; 5 Then you will discern the
fear of the Lord, And discover the knowledge of God. 6 For the Lord gives
wisdom; From His mouth [come] knowledge and understanding. 7 He stores up sound
wisdom for the upright; [He is] a shield to those who walk in integrity, 8
Guarding the paths of justice, And He preserves the way of His godly ones.”

You must seek wisdom like you would silver, but it is the Lord that gives it.
And though you are to search for wisdom as for hidden treasure, that only
describes the strength of desire you are to have to gain wisdom for wisdom is
not hidden. Proverbs 1:20; 8:1 & 9:3 all personify wisdom and portray her as
shouting in the streets and calling out to the naive to turn aside and learn
from her. Wisdom is available and attainable to all that will hear and heed, but
few are those that will. Most men think they can get by just fine or even better
by their own intelligence. They refuse wisdom’s call, neglect her counsel and
reject her reproof because they do not choose the fear of the Lord and so hate
knowledge (Proverbs 1:24-30). Parents, be diligent to teach your children the
fear of the Lord and to seek after the wisdom that comes from Him. If they grow
up to walk in foolishness, you be sure it is because they have rejected wisdom
and not because teaching it to them was neglected.


Childishness, Foolishness and Correction


Since we all come into this world as sinners (Psalm 51:5; Romans 5:12), the
major task of parenting is dealing with the foolishness that is bound up in the
heart of a child while directing them toward wisdom. Keep in mind that
foolishness and childishness are very different from each other.

Childishness is inability due to ignorance and lack of physical
ability. A toddler spills his cup because it is difficult for him to hold it. A
child strikes out because it takes practice to develop hand – eye coordination
to hit the ball. A young child that reaches for a hot pan is curious and does
not yet know it is dangerous. A math student gets the problem wrong the first
time because he does not understand the concepts yet. Childishness is overcome
by teaching them knowledge and helping them gain the necessary physical strength
and coordination. It is never appropriate to punish for childishness. You
continue to teach and warn as well as encourage and help them gain the
knowledge, strength and skills needed.

Foolishness is the rebellion that is in the heart that prods him to do
things his own way regardless of instructions and warnings received. A toddler
that is told to stop playing with his cup, but then continues to do so and
spills it is foolish. A child that strikes out because he refuses to hold the
bat as instructed by the coach is foolish. A child that is warned about the
danger of a hot pan and still tries to grab it is foolish. A student that fails
the math test because they refused to do the homework that would have enabled
them to master the needed concepts is foolish. The consequences for foolishness
will include correction and some form of punishment.

Correction. For young children, the foolishness is generally going to
be exhibited by outward actions. The major task is to bring their behavior into
obedience to the parents or other authorities. This is largely done through
verbal correction and physical chastisement. Proverbs has a lot to say on this
issue starting with Proverbs 22:15, Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a
child; The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.
I am well aware
that many psychologists reject such physical discipline, but that is precisely
the point at which you have to decide if you will follow God’s wisdom or worldly
wisdom. Proverbs 13:24 states, “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he
who loves him disciplines him diligently.”
Proverbs 19:18 adds,
“Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not desire his death.”
withhold the proper discipline is to hate your child for it leaves him on the
path that leads to death. Proverbs 20:20, “He who curses his father or his
mother, His lamp will go out in time of darkness.”
Proverbs 30:17, “The
eye that mocks a father, And scorns a mother, The ravens of the valley will pick
it out, And the young eagles will eat it.”

Now I want to remind you that you are never to discipline your children in
anger for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God (James
1:19). Calm down and make sure of your reasons for chastening and that you do it
properly. The discipline also needs to be related to and appropriate to the
offense considering factors such as the child’s age, general behavior, frequency
of the offense and the particular circumstances. It is appropriate to slap their
hand if it is a hand offense – common among very young children. It progresses
to a slap on the thigh and then chastisement on the buttocks with an appropriate
instrument – something firm, but flexible and not something rigid like a wooden
spoon or paddle. Why? Simply because the goal is to cause a sting painful enough
to deter the behavior without physically damaging the child. If you are causing
bruising, your hitting too hard or with the wrong thing, but at the same time,
if there is not enough pain from the sting, it will not deter the foolishness.

It is important to take heed to Proverbs 29:15, “The rod and reproof give
wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.”
takes both verbal and physical correction to bring about wisdom because the long
term goal is to train the heart, not just gain outward obedience. Behavior is
the easy part. The heart must be trained in wisdom through moral instruction as
part of daily life in teaching them about God and His commands, and it is
further trained when the moral reason is reemphasized when giving correction. As
the child gets older and outward behavior is gained, physical chastisement is
replaced with more talking and other types of correction depending on the
particular type of foolishness, its frequency and the child’s general character.
This could range from just a warning, to a gentle swat as a reminder, to
isolation so they can think about their actions, to loss of privileges related
to the offense. If there were natural consequences to their foolishness such as
a broken toy, skinned knee or loss of a friend, there is no other correction
needed except explaining the correlation between their foolishness and the
consequences experienced.

If you want wise children that will bring you and others joy and not foolish
children that will cause you grief and shame, then you must train them in God’s
ways. Though we just talked about the correction of their foolishness, the major
work in training your children is to be through positive instruction,
reinforcement and warnings and not negative correction after they have sinned.
If a child is trained properly, they will generally have their behavior under
control by around 5 or 6 years old, and by the time they are 12 or 13 they
should be controlled internally by their own heart for the Lord and keeping His
commandments. Such children can become friends and peers by their late teens or
early twenties.

You will want to teach them the breadth of Scriptures about God and His
commands, but Proverbs is a great place to find pithy statements about the moral
lessons you want to instill into their hearts. These will be in both positive
statements about what they are to do as well as warnings about what to avoid.
Let me go over a few of them as a framework on which you can build.

God – There is nothing more important than teaching your children about
God. We have already seen that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
but Proverbs also says much about a lot of other things concerning the Lord.

We are to trust the Lord. Proverbs 3:5-8, “Trust in the Lord with all your
heart, And do not lean on your own understanding. 6 In all your ways acknowledge
Him, And He will make your paths straight. 7 Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the Lord and turn away from evil. 8 It will be healing to your body, And
refreshment to your bones.”
Proverbs 29:25, “The fear of man brings a
snare, But he who trusts in the Lord will be exalted.”
Proverbs 18:10,
“The name of the Lord is a strong tower; The righteous runs into it and is

The Lord is in control. Proverbs 16:9, “The mind of man plans his way, But
the Lord directs his steps.”
Proverbs 16:33, “The lot is cast into the
lap, But its every decision is from the Lord.”
Proverbs 21:1, “The king’s
heart is [like] channels of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever
He wishes.”

The Lord cares for the righteous. Proverbs 10:3, “The Lord will not allow
the righteous to hunger, But He will thrust [aside] the craving of the wicked.”
Proverbs 10:29-30, “The way of the Lord is a stronghold to the upright,
But ruin to the workers of iniquity. 30 The righteous will never be shaken, But
the wicked will not dwell in the land.”
Proverbs 15:29, “The Lord is far
from the wicked, But He hears the prayer of the righteous.”

The Lord knows your heart. Proverbs 15:3, “The eyes of the Lord are in
every place, Watching the evil and the good.”
Proverbs 17:3, “The
refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold, But the Lord tests hearts.”

Proverbs 21:2, “Every man’s way is right in his own eyes, But the Lord weighs
the hearts.”

The Lord’s desire for you. Proverbs 21:3, “To do righteousness and justice
Is desired by the Lord rather than sacrifice.”

There are things the Lord especially hates. Proverbs 6:16-19 “There are
six things which the Lord hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: 17
Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood, 18 A heart
that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil, 19 A false witness
[who] utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers.”
16:5, “Everyone who is proud in heart is an abomination to the Lord;
Assuredly, he will not be unpunished.”

The discipline of the Lord is a good thing. Proverbs 3:11-12, “My son, do
not reject the discipline of the Lord , Or loathe His reproof, 12 For whom the
Lord loves He reproves, Even as a father, the son in whom he delights.”




Proverbs address issues of the family – marriage, husband, wife, parenting
and children.

Encourage your daughters to be wise like the woman described in Proverbs
31:10-31 and your sons to find such a woman for a wife. Proverbs 31:10 “An
excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. . .”

Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor
from the Lord.”
And girls, find a man of integrity. Proverbs 20:7, “A
righteous man who walks in his integrity– How blessed are his sons after him.”

But warn them about being foolish or finding one. Proverbs 14:1, “The wise
woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”

Proverbs 12:4, “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who
shames [him] is as rottenness in his bones.”
Proverbs 21:19, “It is
better to live in a desert land, Than with a contentious and vexing woman.”

That includes foolish men. Proverbs 12:15a, “The way of a fool is right in
his own eyes.”
Proverbs 14:17, “A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And
a man of evil devices is hated.”
Proverbs 19:3, “The foolishness of man
subverts his way, And his heart rages against the Lord.”
Proverbs 29:11a,
“A fool always loses his temper.”
Proverbs 21:20, “There is precious
treasure and oil in the dwelling of the wise, But a foolish man swallows it up.”

There is blessing when parents and children are wise, but tragedy when either
is foolish. Proverbs 10:1, “A wise son makes a father glad, But a foolish son
is a grief to his mother.”
Proverbs 13:1, “A wise son [accepts his]
father’s discipline, But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.”
17:25, “A foolish son is a grief to his father, And bitterness to her who
bore him.”


Friends & Neighbors


Use Proverbs to explain some of the characteristics of true friends. Proverbs
17:17, “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.”
Proverbs 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are
the kisses of an enemy.”
Proverbs 27:17, “Iron sharpens iron, So one man
sharpens another.”
It also warns, Proverbs 27:14, “He who blesses his
friend with a loud voice early in the morning, It will be reckoned a curse to
Proverbs 29:5, “A man who flatters his neighbor Is spreading a net
for his steps.”

Proverbs gives a lot of counsel on relationships with neighbors. Proverbs
12:26, “The righteous is a guide to his neighbor, But the way of the wicked
leads them astray.”
Proverbs 25:17, “Let your foot rarely be in your
neighbor’s house, Lest he become weary of you and hate you.”
Proverbs 26:18,
“Like a madman who throws Firebrands, arrows and death, 19 So is the man who
deceives his neighbor, And says, “€˜Was I not joking?'”


The Tongue


James 4:2 tells us that a man that can keep from stumbling in what he says is
a perfect man. Proverbs tells us a lot on the use of our tongue. Here are a few
of its statements to teach your children. Proverbs 21:23, “He who guards his
mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles.”
Proverbs 18:10, “He
who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him.”
10:31-32, “The mouth of the righteous flows with wisdom, But the perverted
tongue will be cut out. 32 The lips of the righteous bring forth what is
acceptable, But the mouth of the wicked, what is perverted.
Proverbs 15:2,
“The tongue of the wise makes knowledge acceptable, But the mouth of fools
spouts folly.”
Proverbs 20:19, “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals
secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.”
Proverbs 17:4, “An
evildoer listens to wicked lips, A liar pays attention to a destructive tongue.”

Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who
love it will eat its fruit.”
Wouldn’t all of us be better off if we were all
careful to heed this wisdom?


Wealth & Work


Our society places a premium on wealth, but Proverbs gives a better
perspective on the source of wealth and what is important in life. Proverbs
3:9-10, “Honor the Lord from your wealth, And from the first of all your
produce; 10 So your barns will be filled with plenty, And your vats will
overflow with new wine.”
Proverbs 10:22, “It is the blessing of the Lord
that makes rich, And He adds no sorrow to it.”
Proverbs 13: 22, “A good
man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, And the wealth of the
sinner is stored up for the righteous.”
Proverbs 15:16, “Better is a
little with the fear of the Lord, Than great treasure and turmoil with it.”

There is also much warning about it too. Proverbs 23:4-5, “Do not weary
yourself to gain wealth, Cease from your consideration [of it.] 5 When you set
your eyes on it, it is gone. For [wealth] certainly makes itself wings, Like an
eagle that flies [toward] the heavens.”
Proverbs 28:22, “A man with an
evil eye hastens after wealth, And does not know that want will come upon him.”
Proverbs 13:11, “Wealth [obtained] by fraud dwindles, But the one who
gathers by labor increases [it.]”
Proverbs 24:33-34, “A little sleep, a
little slumber, A little folding of the hands to rest,” 34 Then your poverty
will come [as] a robber, And your want like an armed man.”




There is of course much, much more in Proverbs concerning these issues and
many more topics. It is a good book to teach your children that they might have
wisdom in many areas, and a good book to continually review yourself for the
same reason. I have listed some book recommendations in the Sermon Notes as
aides to help you do that.

The bottom line of godly parenting is teaching your children about God, His
ways and works and His commands. As they learn to see the world from the Lord’s
perspective, they will be able to discern what to do in any situation that comes
upon them. Teach them to obey and have proper respect for the Lord, for you as
your parents, and for other authorities in the lives. In addition, teach them to
have respect for others because people are precious to the Lord. He created them
and Jesus died to redeem them, and so we are to also treat them as being
precious and that includes treating their property with respect too. Finally,
teach them to treat nature with respect too. God has given man dominion over the
earth, but He created it all and will hold man responsible for the stewardship
entrusted to him. It all does boil down to the two great commandments – to love
the Lord God with all your heart, soul and mind and love your neighbor as




Parents, you are responsible to apply
God’s Word to your children’s lives. Here is some help.

Young Children – draw a
picture about something you hear during the sermon. Explain your picture(s) to
your parents at lunch. Older Children – Do one or more of the following:
1) Write down all the verses mentioned in the sermon and look them up later. 2)
Count how many references are made to Proverbs. Discuss with your parents what
Proverbs you should be memorizing in your own life.




Questions to consider in discussing
the sermon with others. What is the primary goal of a Christian parent in
rearing their children? What is the second great goal? What is wisdom? Where
does it come from? How can it be attained? What is the difference between
worldly wisdom and godly wisdom? What is childishness and how is it corrected?
What is foolishness and how is it corrected? What is the role of physical
chastening in child training? How do you keep it from being abusive? Pick a
Proverb from each category in the sermon and start teaching them (memorize too)
to your children over the next few months. Book Recommendations:

Be Skillful (Proverbs), Warren W.
Wiersbe, David C. Cook / 2008

God’s Answers for Today’s Problems
, Kay Arthur, Pete De Lacy, Harvest House / 2007

Proverbs, LifeChange Bible Study
, Bonnie Rhodes, NAV Press / 1991

Proverbs Driven Life, Anthony

Sermon Notes

The Role of the
Parents, Part 3 – Proverbs on Parenting




We all need to know what the __________wants taught to
children for everyone has an effect upon them

______________ are responsible for the rearing of their

Each person bears their ____________ sins. The solution to
guilt is repentance, confession & forgiveness

God requires children to ____________ , so the parents
must also require it

Parents are to avoid provoking their children to
________or exasperating them causing them to lose heart

Avoid abuse, inconsistency, selfishness, favoritism,
excessive expectations & manipulation

Parents are to raise their children in the _______________
and instruction of the Lord.

Deut. 6:4-9. _____________ and diligently teach the
children the Lord’s commandments in all situations

Use Scripture to teach, reprove, _____________ and
instruct them how to live godly lives


The Goal


It is up to _____________ to save your children, you can
only the foundation for the Holy Spirit to use.

Teach them all about _______, His character, work and
commands while modeling supreme love for Him

Raise your children to become ____________ adults –
Proverbs 1:2-6


Wisdom, Its Origins & Attainment


Wisdom is the ability to _______________ apply knowledge –
to fulfill the purpose and meaning in life

1 Corinthians 1:18-31. The contrast between
________________ wisdom and godly wisdom

Your ________ will determine which wisdom you will use in
raising your children

The origin of wisdom is the ________of the Lord – Proverbs
9:10; 1:7b; 15:33; 16:6; 8:13; 10:27; 14:26

Proverbs 2:1-8. Wisdom is attained by ________it, but it
shouts to the naive to be found (1:20; 8:1; 9:3)


Childishness, Foolishness and Correction


Childishness is _____________ due to ignorance and lack of
physical ability.

__________and warn as well as encourage and help them gain
the knowledge, strength and skills needed

Foolishness is _______________ in the heart resulting in
rejection of instructions and warnings.

The consequences for foolishness will include correction
and some form of _______________.

Young children need to have their ____________brought into
obedience by verbal & physical correction

Physical chastening is _____________ wisdom – Proverbs
22:15; 13:24; 19:18; 20:20; 30:17, etc.

Never discipline in _______(James 1:19). It must be
related to and appropriate to the child & the offense

Chastisement is to cause ___________ to deter the
behavior, but it is not to physically damage the child.

Proverbs 29:15 – correction is both verbal and physical so
that both behavior and the ________are trained

The type of correction changes as the child gets

Discipline includes correction, but most of it should be
_________instruction, reinforcement & warnings

_______________ under control by 5 or 6; self governed by
12 or 13; adult responsibilities by late teens

God – You can _________Him (Proverbs 3:5-8, 29:25, 18:10). He is in
control (Proverbs 16:9, 33; 21:1)

He cares for the righteous (Proverbs 10:3, 29-30, 15:29).
He knows your heart (Prov. 15:3; 17:3; 21:2)

His desire (Proverbs 21:3). He especially hates some
things (Proverbs 6:16-19; 16:5).

His discipline is a good thing (Proverbs 3:11-12)

Family – Raise them to be ____________ women and men (Proverbs 31:10-30;
18:22; 20:7)

Warn them about foolish men and women (Proverbs 14:1;
12:4; 21:9; 12:15; 14:17; 19:3; 29:11; 21:20)

Wise children are a blessing, foolish ones are not
(Proverbs 10:1; 13:1; 17:25;

Friends & Neighbors – Characteristics of true ____________ (Proverbs
17:17; 27:6, 14, 17, 29:5)

Treat your neighbors well (Proverbs 12:26; 25:17-18;

The Tongue – use it _____________ (Proverbs 21:23; 18:10; 10:31-32; 15:2;
20:19; 17:4; 18:21)

Wealth – Its origin, value and use (Proverbs 3:9-10; 10:22; 13:22; 15:16)

______________ about pursing it (Proverbs 23:4-5; 28:22;
13:11; 24:33-34

Conclusions – Teach your children from Proverbs

Teach them to obey & have proper respect for the Lord, you
and other authorities

Teach them to respect others and their property for they
are precious to the Lord

Teach them to respect nature for God created it and will
hold them accountable for its use

Love God with all your heart, soul and mind and love your
neighbor as yourself

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